Tweet Closeup on the face of someone who is looking down, their eyes nearly shut, looking pensive. This article is written by a cisgender woman about the social expectations that she experiences, having a vagina. Please keep in mind that not all women have vaginas, and not all people with vaginas are women, and their experiences may differ. Small feet, small kiki [vagina]. And as a newly minted teenager, my sense of insecurity was growing in direct proportion to my bacne and eyebrows.